Crafting Your Perfect Wedding Vows:
A Step-by-Step Guide for Couples
By Cat Hopkins Celebrant

Writing Vows

Your wedding day is one of the most significant moments of your life, and exchanging vows with your partner is a deeply personal and heartfelt aspect of the ceremony. Writing your wedding vows allows you to express your love, commitment, and promises to one another in your own unique way. However, for many couples, the task of composing these meaningful words can feel overwhelming. If you’re feeling stuck or unsure of where to begin, fear not! This guide is here to help you navigate the process and create vows that truly reflect your love and partnership. Also, have a chat with your Celebrant about helping you with writing vows.

Step 1: Reflect on Your Relationship

Before putting pen to paper, take some time to reflect on your relationship with your partner. Think about your journey together, the experiences you’ve shared, and the qualities that you admire most about each other. Consider what marriage means to you and what promises you want to make to your partner as you embark on this next chapter together.

Step 2: Set the Tone

Decide on the tone you want your vows to convey. Do you envision them as heartfelt and romantic, light-hearted and humorous, or perhaps a combination of both? Setting the tone will help guide your writing process and ensure that your vows align with the overall vibe of your wedding ceremony.

Step 3: Gather Inspiration

Draw inspiration from a variety of sources to help spark your creativity. Read through traditional wedding vows, poetry, love letters, or even quotes from your favourite books or movies. You can also look back on special moments or conversations you’ve shared with your partner for inspiration.

Step 4: Jot Down and Write

Start by jotting down your thoughts and feelings about your partner and your relationship. Don’t worry about crafting perfect sentences at this stage – just let your thoughts flow freely. Once you have a collection of ideas, begin shaping them into cohesive vows. Aim for sincerity and authenticity, and don’t be afraid to let your personality shine through.

Step 5: Make Personal Promises

Think about the specific promises you want to make to your partner. These can be simple or elaborate, but they should be meaningful and heartfelt. Consider including promises related to communication, support, laughter, and growth, as these are often key pillars of a strong and lasting partnership.

Step 6: Edit and Refine

Once you’ve written a draft of your vows, take some time to review and edit them. Read them aloud to yourself or practice reciting them to a trusted friend or family member or even your Celebrant. Look for areas where you can clarify or strengthen your wording, and make sure your vows flow smoothly when spoken aloud.

Step 7: Add Personal Touches

Consider adding personal touches to your vows to make them even more special. You could incorporate inside jokes, shared memories, or meaningful quotes that hold significance to your relationship. These personal touches will make your vows uniquely yours and will resonate deeply with your partner.

Step 8: Practice, Practice, Practice

Finally, practice reciting your vows until you feel comfortable and confident delivering them on your wedding day. You may want to rehearse in front of a mirror or record yourself speaking to fine-tune your delivery. Remember, the most important thing is to speak from the heart and let your love for your partner shine through.


Writing your wedding vows is a beautiful opportunity to express your love, commitment, and promises to your partner in your own words. By following these steps and putting thought and care into your vows, you can create a meaningful and memorable moment that you’ll cherish for a lifetime. So, take your time, be true to yourselves, and enjoy the process of crafting your perfect wedding vows.

Get in touch with me if you would like to arrange a free discovery call. Once you’ve booked me and I’m creating your ceremony I will be happy to help you out with creating your vows.

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